Law Enforcement Administration

Police and Family Conference

Backing Up a Cop: Building Better Law Enforcement Relationships


Plano, Texas, USA

Past Event

ILEA Headquarters
at The Center for American and International Law
5201 Democracy Drive
Plano, Texas 75024

Online registration is closed. Please bring your completed registration form to the door.

Registrar: +1.972.244.3404
ILEA: +1.972.244.3430 
Fax: +1.972.244.3431


With the goal of strengthening all personal relationships in the law enforcement community, this gathering promises two days of enlightenment, education, and the opportunity for personal and professional growth. This conference is not intended to turn bad relationships into good ones. Instead, it is designed to provide insights, experiences and strategies that will assist law enforcement practitioners and their significant others — whether dating, married or partnered — in making good relationships even stronger.

This year’s Police and Family Conference will focus on the core relationship of all our families - the spousal relationship; our guest facilitators hail from Woodstock, Ontario, Canada.  Colin and Catherine Nanton are both former police officers and have over thirty years relationship building and communications experience. 

The Nantons have an exciting weekend planned for us.  After a heartwarming welcome the couples will be guided through the “Transformational Conversation” exercise.  This is an opportunity to have an enriching, deep conversation with our loved one.  This exercise is followed with a personality inventory to help identify our temperaments, so that we might learn how to maximize our style to build communication bridges and minimize conflict. 

The afternoon session will focus on identifying our Love Languages.  Our love language is the special “something” that helps us feel loved.  This process is designed to enlighten your special one about your special needs, that is, what being loved means to you.

The following day Catherine and Colin focus on emotional truthfulness and cordial hypocrisy with a series of exercises designed to help us be fully honest with our loved ones in order to build our relationships to the fullest.

Additionally, the Institute will have present volunteer lawyers that will help couples start preparation towards legal stability by guiding you on preparing Power of Attorney and Medical Power of Attorney documents and outlining the beginning stage of a Will and Testament.  Financial planning sessions will also be available.

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  • $25* per Couple
  • $15* per Individual

*Underwritten by The Center for American and International Law

Who Should Attend?

Law enforcement personnel, their spouses, domestic partners and significant others.

Schedule and Faculty

Saturday, July 30

9:00 am

Registration and Continental Breakfast

9:30 am


  • Gregory Smith, MA, Vice President for Law Enforcement Education, The Center for American and International Law

9:45 am

This is a Transformation Weekend!

  • Ground Rules for Discovery and Growth
  • Communication: An Experiential Exercise
    Dyads, Discovery and Insight
  • The Transformational Conversation
    • Paradigms
    • Paradigm Blindness
    • Non-verbal Exercise to Identify Paradigms and Assumptions
    • Adopting a Beginner’s Mind
  • Personality and Relationships: The DiSC

Couples will be guided through the “Transformational Conversation” exercise. This is an opportunity to have an enriching, deep conversation with our loved one. This exercise is followed with a personality inventory to help identify our temperaments, so that we might learn how to maximize our style to build communication bridges and minimize conflict.

  • Catherine Nanton, MBA, Professor of Police Studies, Fanshawe College, Ontario, Canada
  • Colin Nanton, MS, Chaplain of Police, Woodstock Police Service, Woodstock, Ontario, Canada

12:00 pm

Lunch (provided) with Assignment

1:00 pm

Lunch Debriefing

1:30 pm

The Five Love Languages and Breakout Groups

Using author Dr. Gary Chapman’s text, The Five Love Languages - The Secret to Love That Last, facilitators will guide our police couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.
By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. A love languages assessment taken by you and your spouse or significant other will help you understand and strengthen your relationship.

  • Catherine and Colin Nanton

3:00 pm

My Love Language: Group Presentations

  • Group 1: Words of Affirmation
  • Group 2: Quality Time
  • Group 3: Receiving Gifts
  • Group 4: Acts of Service
  • Group 5: Physical Touch

4:00 pm

Raffle, Wrap-up and Date Night Assignments

Sunday, July 31

10:00 am

Building Financial Strength in our Families

People in strong families and in strong relationships understand the significance of properly managing family finances. This session will cover budgeting, will and estate planning, retirement planning options, life insurance (what is it and why do you need it), Dave Ramsey’s Legacy Drawer, and debt.

  • Sgt. Nick Daugherty, Grand Prairie Police Dept.

11:30 am

Working Lunch (provided): Financial Strength continued

12:45 pm

Peer-Family Discussions Preventing Relational Sabotage

(for non-law enforcement)


  • Kristin Spivey
  • Tammera Smith
  • Catherine Nanton

(for law enforcement)
The Love Language of Apology


  • Gregory Smith
  • Colin Nanton

This facilitated discussion probes the joys and tribulations of living and loving in a police family. Fearful that your police officer will be hurt on the job? Worried about how your children think about the police officer in the family? Am I alone in my feelings? This session is a time for family members to share their concerns and some of their funnier times of living with a police officer. This sharing opportunity helps spouse and family members realize that they are not alone in the experiences they encounter in these special families.

2:30 pm

Transformation Weekend! Discoveries… Saturday’s Experience

Classroom Discussions:

  • Cordial Hypocrisy
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Non-Verbal Communication

Promises and Commitment

This session will focus on emotional truthfulness and cordial hypocrisy with a series of exercises designed to help us be fully honest with our loved ones in order to build our relationships to the fullest.
Catherine and Colin Nanton

4:00 pm

Raffle Drawing, Concluding Remarks and Dismissal

Overnight Accommodations

Hyatt Place Dallas/Plano
3100 Dallas Parkway
Plano, Texas 75093
Tel: 972.378.3997

Hyatt Place Plano welcomes our guests attending ILEA – Police and Family Conference, at The Center for American and International Law. We have set aside a block of rooms with a group rate of $94 plus applicable fees/taxes for 7/29/2016-7/31/2016.

Please make your reservations by 7/14/2016 . As long as the reservation is made by this date, and the group block has availability, you will receive the group rate. Any reservations not received on or before this cut-off date are subject to hotel availability at the best available prevailing rate.

Booking Instructions

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Type in Arrival/Departure Dates
Enter Group/Corporate #: G-AL24
Call 888-HYATT-HP (888.492.8847) or 972.378.3997

Dates available: 7/29/2016-7/31/2016
Mention the group name: CAILAW / ILEA – Police and Family Conference

  • A valid credit card is required to make reservations
  • Tax Exemption Certificates and Credit Card Authorization Forms may be faxed to the hotel directly at 972.608.4427 prior to your arrival.

Course Cancellation Policy

Occasionally, the Institute for Law Enforcement Administration (ILEA) may be forced to cancel a scheduled program. Whenever possible, the decision to cancel is made at least fourteen days prior to the start of the program, and registered participants are notified once that decision has been made. If the distance to the training site requires that you make airline and/or hotel reservations, please contact ILEA (+1.972.244.3430) to inquire about the status of any program before making travel arrangements. While paid registrations in cancelled courses will be refunded in full, ILEA will not be responsible for monetary loss due to cancellations or changes in airline or hotel reservations.

Eligibility Policy

The Institute for Law Enforcement Administration provides  professional education and technical support to the law enforcement community. 

A registrant in an ILEA program must be a sworn officer; a civilian employee of a law enforcement department; or an employee of a municipal, county or state agency.

Anyone interested in attending an ILEA program who does not meet the above standard requirements will need to request advance approval. Such requests will be considered on a case-by-case basis.

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